I spend way too much time on Facebook. I always have. I watch people like a serious creeper. I watch people post pictures of their children. I watch people post about their happy marriages. I wonder how much of it is a lie. Occasionally I watch Facebook turn into a war zone. The bullets and the napalm are flying now. Same sex marriage is before the Supreme Court. Yes, I am going to call it same sex marriage as I’ve yet to see anything gay about marriage. I see people getting de-friended left and right for their views on same sex marriage. It’s like the Night of the Long Knives of de-friending. I really did just compare de-friending on Facebook to political murders committed by the Nazis. Awkward. In any event, I’ve watched a lot of Facebook profile pictures change to equal signs and I’ve watched a lot of Bible verses super imposed over pictures flood my timeline this week. I don’t even want to consider what things are going to look like when the court hands down some sort of a decision.
I don’t appreciate the “God said it, I believe it, that settles it” attitude of the defenders of traditional marriage and I don’t appreciate the shrill, overly emotional argumentation of the marriage equality crowd. The loudest voices in each camp are the most obnoxious. I suppose it has to work that way. That’s how God wants it. I don’t think many in the marriage equality camp can appreciate that their opponents really do believe that God commands marriage be only between a man and a woman. Many do believe that God wants it that way. God, the creator of the universe wants it that way. A person sincerely believing that God wants it that way is extremely powerful. That’s supremely difficult for people with little or no faith to wrap their heads around. The traditional marriage crowd seem to have lots of difficulty conceiving of marriage as a civil institution. Marriage undeniably has spiritual significance. However, the U.S. government and most governments are secular. Marriage is also a civil institution that grants people practical benefits.
I can never pat myself on the back as some great defender of civil rights. Let’s face it, getting dogs sicced on you at Selma isn’t the same as putting an equal sign on your Facebook profile. I won’t pretend that I sometimes don’t feel revulsion when thinking about men having sex with each other. Hell, I feel revulsion when I think about a lot of people having sex. Can we really treat people like second class citizens simply because we don’t like what they do with their genitals? (Forget people convicted of sex crimes. However, even they have rights.) There was a time when I considered myself a conservative Christian. I fail to understand the jealous protection of marriage now. I’ve seen more than a few people in this holy institution who were virgins on their wedding night and did everything they were supposed to be absolutely miserable. I suspect very strongly that it’s all not as holy as some might think. People love to talk about Adam and Eve. Was there a marriage ceremony in the Garden of Eden that was left out of the scriptural canon? We cannot pretend that marriage is anything but an institution that man is the author of. Would God, if he, she or it is worthy of being worshiped really desire for some people to be regarded as second class citizens? Would you really want to worship a supreme being like that? Government is the little g as opposed to the big G which is God, correct? Why is it so important that the little g enshrine marriage as only between a man and a woman. If God runs the entire universe and you believe that he agrees wholeheartedly with you then I have to wonder why in the hell it matters what a government does. Why must a government adhere to a specific theology? I’d hate to see what happens if the government went Arminian when you’re a Calvinist. The government cannot have a theology because it’s in theory supposed to represent all of us. Let them have their marriage. Leave them alone. Forget about what hole people are sticking it in. I don’t know what to call myself these days. If I were to call myself a Christian then my Christianity would be about denouncing the evil in high places. It would be about attacking the structures in our society that keep people in poverty and keeps us building more and more prisons. I really have to wonder why it is so many Christians are more concerned with homosexuality than they are with poverty or corruption or anything else that causes actual suffering. I suspect that maybe it’s just easier to obsess over what hole people are sticking it in than to force yourself to look at actual suffering. Quit doing the easy thing. Find another fight. Find a fight that matters.